Bookends of Recovery: Addiction, Betrayal Trauma & Healing
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Episodes
101 episodes
Guided Imagery & Your Happy Place Guided Meditation (Throwback)
If you have ever felt overwhelmed or anxious, or had your thoughts spiral out of control, you are not alone. I’ve been there. Today I’m resharing some mindfulness techniques that you can use when things feel overwhelming, a trigger hits, or you...
Stuck in Recovery or Healing? Do You Need a Break or a New Direction?
What do you do when the tools that used to help no longer do? In this episode, we explore the brick wall in recovery and healing, and how to figure out whether it’s time for a change or time to give yourself a break.
How to Stop Overthinking in Recovery: Practical Tools to Break the Thought Spiral
Not every thought is a fact, but when you’re in the middle of a spiral, it can feel like it is.In this episode, we walk through simple, real-life tools to help you pause, challenge unhelpful thinking, and respond differently in the momen...
For the partners: Meditation: Detaching with Love
If you’ve been swinging between trying to fix everything and wanting to shut down, this guided meditation will help you find your way back to balance using detaching with love.
Detaching with Love: Holding Space & Letting Go Without Losing Yourself (with a worksheet walkthrough)
I thought I had detaching with love figured out… until I realized I was just pulling away. In this episode, I share my mistakes, the shift that changed everything, and what it really looks like in real life. Including a worksheet walkthrough.
Questions to Ask Yourself After Discovering Your Partner's An Addict...Do I Leave or Stay is Just the Beginning
When we find out our partner is an addict, one of the first questions we ask ourselves is do we stay or do we go? Especially if our partner is pornography and/or sex addict. In this episode, I share questions to consider beyond the question of ...
After Addiction Disclosure: What to Expect; Betrayal Trauma, Hypervigilance, Chaotic Emotions...and Hope
I think something that’s important to talk about is what happens after addiction disclosure. It was something I wasn’t even remotely prepared to experience. I didn’t expect the emotional chaos that happened in the weeks and months afterward. It...
Brief Announcement...What's Your Daffodil today? Bookends of Recovery eBook on sale
Spring has always felt like the season of regrowth to me.Every year when my daffodils bloom, I’m reminded of something I didn’t always believe was possible… my own healing.In this brief announcement, I’m sharing a reflection on th...
Betrayal Trauma and Hypervigilance: My Story of Healing After Porn Addiction
Today's episode is about what it felt like to discover my husband’s pornography addiction, the hypervigilance that followed, and how healing finally began.
Is Something Wrong or Is It a Trauma Footprint?
I share a recent moment when my brain went straight to panic mode during a simple disagreement, what that taught me about trauma footprints, and the gentle check-in tools that help me stay grounded.
Between the Bookends: A Practical Guide to Recovery & Healing
Recovery and healing don’t have one ending. They have two bookends. One bookend is the moment that changed you. The other is the moment you chose differently.One holds the addiction. The other holds the healing.One holds the betra...
The Strong You: A Guided Meditation
A quick and gentle guided meditation to help you reconnect with your inner strength, especially during moments of fear, doubt, or overwhelm. This practice is about remembering who you are when things feel challenging.
Rebuilding Self Confidence after Addiction and Betrayal Trauma
If you’re in recovery, loving someone with addiction, or healing from betrayal trauma, struggling with confidence is incredibly common. Learn how to rebuild it in today's episode.
Valentine’s Week When You Love Someone with an Addiction
Valentine’s week can be challenging for a lot of people.But if you’re in a relationship with an addiction, especially pornography and/or sex and love addiction, it can feel even more overwhelming.If you’re struggling this week, you’r...
Stop the Chaos: Finding Ground When Emotions Feel Like Too Much (with a free workbook)
Have you ever felt that kind of internal chaos? The racing thoughts. The emotional whiplash. The urge to numb or fix something that isn’t yours to fix. That moment when fight, flight, freeze, or fawn kicks into overdrive. Whether yo...
Workbook Walkthrough: Three Circles & CFT
As promised...it's a workbook walkthrough for The Three Circles & CFT (You don't need the workbook ...
The Three Circles & CFT: Recovery, Boundaries, and Healing for Addicts and Their Loved Ones
In today's episode, I revisit The Three Circles and add in CFT. It creates structure without shame, boundaries without pressure, and awareness without rigidity. And when both partners use it, it becomes a shared language for healing instead of ...
ARC: Tool for Moving Through Triggers, Workbook Walkthrough with a Special Announcement
ARC is a three-step tool for moving through triggers in a way that supports your healing instead of overwhelming it. Today's episode is a
Self-Grace in the New Year with a Workbook Walkthrough
This week’s episode is focused on something I’m practicing this year: self-grace. It includes a workbook...
Workbook Walkthrough: Will you set recovery & healing resolutions or intentions?
As the new year begins, many of us start hearing the familiar question: Should I make resolutions or set intentions? They may sound similar, but they come from very different places. Which one works best for you? With this
Announcement: AMA on Reddit 12/29/25-1/2/26
I’ll be off work next week and thought this would be a good time to open the floor for an AMA on my Reddit page.
Quick Guided Meditation for Releasing Stress, Worry, and Regret
In this guided meditation, you’re invited to slow down, breathe deeply, and release the weight you’ve been carrying.I use gentle imagery and intentional breathing to help you exhale stress, let go of worries about the future, and loosen ...
Compartmentalization in Recovery and Healing: Understanding the Survival Strategy
If you’ve ever felt like you’re living as different versions of yourself, this one’s for you. In this episode, I'm talking about compartmentalization and how it shows up in addiction and healing for both the person in recovery and the people wh...
